I've had many people ask me about the topic of cheating. Some are seeking advice, while others just want to know about my situation. I don't hide the fact that I am married. I'm sorry if you didn't know & it crushed your fantasy. In my relationship, we are open about our sexual wants and needs. I feel strongly about cluing your partner in to your thoughts if you want to go outside the relationship.

I know that it's a very nerve racking and scary idea to come out to your significant other regarding thoughts about wanting to knock the bottom outta someone else. Especially when it might be someone they know or are even very close with. I can say that you really need to think about the consequences by banging a close friend. SEX WILL CHANGE YOUR FRIENDSHIP. I don't care if you think you're the exception to the rule. You're not. Even if the person swears up and down that nothing will happen or nothing will change.... it will. Anyway, I got off track for a minute, you need to put your big britches on and TALK to your partner. You can also gauge their reaction by the discussion. You might be surprised. He or She might be thinking the same thing OR even want to join in. I never suggest you do it in secrecy. That only leads to much bigger problems in your relationship.

If you are still a bit freaked out by actually bringing up the subject or screwing someone else, you can try to go about it in a more public fashion. Try going to a swingers' club. Introducing that particular element into your current relationship might be the way to let your partner know that you'd like to get some strange. You can suggest it for a date night or as something you'd like to check out. If you have a person in mind, then you should really talk about it with them.

If your partner isn't down with you being plowed by someone else, you might have to think of something else to quench your desires. As for MY relationship it's like this: I was a very sexual person when SC met me. He was a very sexual person as well. We did our playtime with other people, but we did it together. Or at least in the same room. Some of the people we've had "relations" with were friends. Unfortunately it almost ruined the friendship. Most people can't separate sex & relationships. One will always think it's something more than it is. Fuck what you've heard, that's how it is.

When feelings get involved, it will never go back to the way it was. Sometimes people get hurt in situations like this. Don't think it's always the female either. Guys get their hearts broken just as much. There IS a way to have your cake and eat it too. You both have to be on board, though. Let's not skim over jealousy. Shit, I am a jealous person. I've relaxed over the years, but in the first 5 years or so.... I was jealous and selfish. I wanted it to be the way I wanted it and you couldn't tell me different. I believed that I could do as I pleased as long as he was there and flirt and be all over people in public, but he wasn't allowed. One sided and unfair, no? That's changed. It had to. You have to be on the same level or it's not going to work. If emotions run too deep and you find yourself arguing more and more.... You need to stop and work on saving the primary relationship if you both feel it's even worth saving.

Extra added fuck buddies aren't for everybody. If your partner isn't cool with it, you need to respect that. The most important thing is to keep the communication open between you two. You might actually be surprised and that might lead to better more adventurous sex in the future. My last tip... USE PROTECTION!! My God, man! The last thing you want is an STI or pregnancy. If you are sneaking around and end up with crotch rot, chances are you're not the only one. That would be one of the WORST ways for your partner to find out that you are being unfaithful. So, talk it out. Throw it out there that you're interested in something new. If it goes horribly wrong, tell me about it. I'll do what I can to help.

Happy Humping! Kinky Katie XXX